To truly create change, you also need to recognize the vulnerability and humanity being shared with you during these conversations. Personally, I will only discuss politics or religion or any other controversial topic with those who can respect me. So if you are one of the people that has had a tough conversation with me, congratulations! This means that I love you, I care about you, you are worth my time to get uncomfortable with, you are worthy of my humanity and vulnerability. These conversations are an act of love.